Updated: Mar 9, 2021
Sis, Know Your Place: Part 2
In Season 2, Episode 1, host Shena L. Vee and guest Nine Ether Rose chimed in on why women view marriage as the golden ticket? Especially when there is an evident mass of irreverence and calamity already present in the relationship. To those who choose to marry, is it truly the right way to go? Have all avenues been investigated? Are you better off now than you would be later?
Thought provoker Nine Ether Rose gives her perspective on marriage contracts, business, and our community position.
Shena and guest advise the young ladies out there who are struggling with self-identity and more!
In Season 1, episode 14 of Owning She, Host Shena L. Vee and guest Nine Ether Rose discussed the disparities and disconnect in the black and brown communities. The question was asked if women should submit and/or respect the male; and if men can be monogamous?
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A large group of women views marriage as the gateway to their complete and utter happiness. As if getting the ring will heal all prior issues. Maybe it's just me... But, I think it's safe to say if any man is deserving enough of you and your time, his actions should already genuinely portray that! I wanted to talk about this subject mainly because many women don't want to face the fact that men are allowed to decide.
I stand for any woman across this earth standing for what it is she believes in. So I most certainly wouldn't advise living beneath anything less than who you are. But, who is that? Do we know who we are? Have we ever actually took the time to close off all distractions and merely be one?
There's a lot to learn about ourselves when we talk about marriage and committed relationships. We are building a family structure, a legacy. Are we sound enough to say I am ready to do whatever it takes to make this work; make it last. I must!
If we can say, I am ready. My emotions are in control. I am spiritually in a position that wills me to compromise. I have understanding and patience. Who I choose as a partner will be safe to share their most tender moments and be their most vulnerable selves. In the case that they don't choose me, I am mature enough to let them be.
Suppose we can say this for sure about ourselves, with conviction. Destiny will most certainly do its job. In the meantime, taking a closer look at what we enjoy most in life will build our characters and teach us to love ourselves without the presence of a romantic interest.
Antiquity and culture have taught us to be unkind, overprotective, spiteful, envious, competitive, and the list goes on. What if we could give loving one another a try? We are not our enemy. Isn't it enough that we have to fight just to be? Why turn on your sister or brother?
The point of this; is to recognize that both men and women when acting out of integrity, leaves no room for failure.
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